30 Life Lessons on Treating Others
30 Life Lessons on Treating Others
© 2013 by Jensen DG. Mañebog
1. Rebuild your self-esteem through friendship
Negative criticisms do add insult to our insecurities and tear down our sense of self-worth. A blast of destructive criticisms leaves us bruised and troubled and makes us feel unwanted. But true and loving friendship does rebuild one’s self-esteem.
2. Never lose faith in humanity
Have faith in the Creator and the humanity He created. Indeed, some people had chosen to become evil, contrary to what God wants. But humanity is “like an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become (necessarily) dirty” (Mahatma Gandhi).
3. Remember that the other is a mystery
Never think that you already really know someone completely. Do not make assumptions. Don’t presuppose either that somebody totally knows you—your thoughts, opinions, and conditions.
4. Share your blessings
Finding a way to give back is satisfying. When a person becomes happy because of our selfless acts, we feel a sense of fulfillment. Sharing your blessings is never meaningless.
5. Genuinely respect other people.
If you want others to treat you with respect, you need to truly respect them first. Respect, like love, is felt.
6. Eat with somebody you enjoy being with.
If appetite is your problem, try to eat with friends and family instead of eating alone. Amiable conversations with people dear to you can make mealtime pleasant.
7. Nurture your friendships with good people
Collect friends. But at the end of the day, you have to keep the good ones and ought to avoid the bad influences. Friendship should not be corrupted by bad and pretentious ‘friends.’
8.Earn others’ respect
Respect is not really that easy to earn. You should gain it, keep it, and maintain it, for it is priceless.
9. Listen to someone who is speaking.
If you patiently listen, the one speaking will recognize your appreciation, respect, concern, and attention. Respect begets respect.
10. Say “Please” and “Thank you.”
Treating other person with respect is very important, because every one of us wants to be respected also. Showing respect to others can be done in simple ways like by saying, “Please” and “Thank you’’.
11. Don’t talk bad about somebody behind his/her back.
If you are a back fighter person who wants to downgrade others, then you don’t deserve to be respected.
12. Don’t contain your anger all the time.
If somebody does or says something that makes you angry, then tell him/her in a nice way. Holding back unhealthy emotions will only cause them to return and haunt you later in life.
13. Don’t judge someone for his or her belief.
Don’t think ill of anyone just because he or she has a different religion from your own. Also, don’t judge a person based on his or her social status and family background.
14. Be true to your words and promises.
Be honest and reliable. A respectable person is one who is honest in his words. He can be trusted that he will do what he promises.
15. Properly deal with those who have offended you.
If you hold anger against anyone, consider talking to him or her about it. You might be surprised to learn that this person has no idea that he or she has offended you.
16. Be yourself all the time.
In dealing with other people, don’t pretend to be someone else. As we’ve been mentioning, “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”
17. Avoid excessive anger
Anger is one of the natural human emotions. But excessive anger could be harmful to your well-being and to those around you. Get away from anger and reduce the amount of anger you feel in a day-to-day basis.
18. Be at peace with other people
If you became angry in a room or office, try to go out and get some fresh air or have a walk. Dink cool (not icy) water to get rid of your anger. Avoid taking sweet or fatty foods which increase blood pressure. Engage in exercises that provide calmness.
19. Refuse to be irritated
When you feel that you are almost becoming angry, take a pause. Take ten, slow deep breaths. Think of something funny. Try to imagine the best scene in your favorite comedy movie.
20. Surround yourself with optimistic people.
Hang out with friends who are positive thinker and have good sense of humor.
21. Don’t increase the amount of hate in the world.
Look at the positive side of every event and development. Always see beauty in your world. Count your blessings.
22. Treat people equally
The ability to treat people equally is a sign of a mature and wise mind. Albert Eistein related, “I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university.”
23. Don’t make changing others your profession.
Especially if someone doesn’t care about you, do not consider it your obligation to change him or her. But you may pray for him or her.
24. Be practically selfless
Yes, living your life for other people can be good, but this too entails that you have already lived your life for yourself first and foremost. In fact, there are times when you have to do what’s good for you, even if it means hurting even some people you care for.
25. Make other people your source of inspiration
By mere looking at or thinking of other people, you can be spiritually strong. When problems seem to plague your life, others could make you realize that they have gone through the same problems that you have today.
26. Be righteously friendly
Being cautious in friendship, like being wise in choosing those you befriend, is one measure of being righteous. None less than the Bible states, “A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.”
27. Don’t hurt anyone just to feel good
Remember that calling someone fat won’t make you any slimmer. Judging others’ outfit as ‘country’ won’t make your getup more fashionable.
28. Never backstab anyone
What is worse than betraying someone after pretending to be his or her friend? “Friendship is a big deal, backstabbing is even bigger.”
29. Don’t worry much about what others think.
Social conformity is only good as long as it doesn’t hurt you nor destroy your moral sense. Be originally happy for what you are especially if what you do brings honor to your Creator.
30. Be special by loving other with all your heart
You maybe a regular man with common life but if you have loved another with all your heart and mind, that could be enough to be really special at least to him or her. No memorial maybe put up for you when you’re gone but you will always have a monument dedicated to you in his/her heart. (© 2013 by Jensen DG. Mañebog)
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