An article contributed by a homemaker in Valenzuela City, Philippines who is currently enrolled in a culinary school.(You, too, can have your articles published here. Send them through e-mail to OurHappySchool@yahoo.com.)
ALL PARENTS DESIRE to be the best parents they can be. Hence, they do everything to ensure that their children are raised well and are given the proper love and attention. They also strive to create a positive relationship between them and their children as parent-child relationship, just like any other human relationships, requires work and effort to make it strong and successful.
As a parent, I also endeavour to look for some pieces of advice from experts and from credible sources on how to make a parent-child relationship successful. Nothing beats a firm bond between a parent and a child. That bond provides the child with the framework for how they would view themselves and the world around them. Perhaps, that bond would also determine how well they would form relationships with others throughout their life.
In my search for noteworthy tips, I stumbled upon a writing of E. Mildred Nevill, “To Parents from their Children – A Few Don’ts". It is a food for thought for parents and can serve as a guide in bringing up their children. Try reading this, as it may help us rethink the ways we raise our children and become the best parents we wish to be.
TO PARENTS FROM THEIR CHILDREN – A FEW DON’TS
1. Don’t spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I am only testing you.
2. Don’t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it. It makes me feel more secure.
3. Don’t let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.
4. Don’t let me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly big.
5. Don’t correct me infront of people if you can help it. I’ll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.
6. Don’t make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
7. Don’t be too upset when I say I hate you. It isn’t you I hate but your power to thwart me.
8. Don’t protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.
9. Don’t take too much notice of my small ailments. I am quite capable of trading in them.
10. Don’t nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.
11. Don’t make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
12. Don’t forget that I cannot explain as well as i would like to. That is why I am not always accurate.
13. Don’t tax my honesty too much. I am easily frightened into telling lies.
14. Don’t be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
15. Don’t put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek information elsewhere.
16. Don’t tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
17. Don’t ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither perfect or infallible.
18. Don’t ever think that it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm towards you.
19. Don’t forget I love experimenting. I couldn’t get on without it so please put up with it.
20. Don’t forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me but please do try.
21. Don’t forget that I can’t thrive without lots of misunderstanding love but I don’t need to tell you that, do I?
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